Is it wrong to talk to your ex-lover?

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Fikile Nomadlozi

28/08/2016

l had a conversation with a friend the other day and it inspired me to ask you guys…is it wrong to talk to your ex? Do you talk to your ex?

My friend was saying he doesn’t talk to his exes because once they are done they have no reason to talk to each other again. Once it is over, she doesn’t exist to him. That is okay, l agree with it. The thing that brings you guys together is finished, it doesn’t exist hence no reason for you to talk together.

Is there anything like ‘we can be friends’ after a relationship? well l don’t know and these cases differ but from my own point of view there is no friendship between exes BUT however, you can still talk to your ex. Talking and having a friendship are different. You can talk to your ex and not be friends…is that possible? I think so because l do it lol. l talk to my exes, not all of them though maybe one or two and l am not friends with them.

So l want to know, is this what l am doing wrong? Is talking to your ex a bad thing, especially if you are in an relationship. To justify myself, we talk normally and it is not an everything thing. We check up on each other from time to time. We don’t meet and hang together like friends do…we basically people who talk.

Now l don’t see any problem with that myself but is it wrong to talk to your ex?

9 responses to “Is it wrong to talk to your ex-lover?”

nashe95

29/08/2016

As long as you keep contact with your exes you are bound to relapse. If you once loved someone so hard, its so easy to love them again. So better to stay away than dangle a piece of meat infront of a hungry lion.

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1. fikilenyathi
  
  01/09/2016
  
  …makes total sense. Thank you Nashe.
  
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vanvodloza

29/08/2016

lol hop she still doesn’t do blogs. I do talk to my exes .. I think im the worst ex in the world

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1. fikilenyathi
  
  01/09/2016
  
  You me and both…l talk to some of my exes hahaha
  
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FrontRow263

29/08/2016

Wrong

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1. fikilenyathi
  
  01/09/2016
  
  why is that so?
  
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Donny Chords

02/09/2016

It’s NOT wrong… Infact I encourage it, because You can not just distance yourself from someone who you once shared a connection with… someone who you once valued, loved etc.

Actually it’s like WiFi. Just because it switched off doesn’t mean you should throw away your laptop… rather keep checkin it incase it reconnects you see. You get it or?

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1. fikilenyathi
  
  04/09/2016
  
  So you saying you talk to them in cases where you have not found someone else? So that maybe you may reconnect again?
  
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Febbie

29/09/2016

It’s not wrong talking to your ex, as long as it doesn’t affect your current relationship.

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